Dating Series Part 1: Recruitment Szn

I know I said I was gonna start this series in July, but I did some thinking and concluded that summer time is usually where people have their 'woes' , summer time highly consists of casual dating etc., and from social media I've picked up on the relationship "recruitment" beginning towards the end of summer, so here we are 💁🏽. So what actually takes place during the recruitment season? Well, my idea suggests this is where the mingle of being single comes into place; you put yourself out there on the market and allow the energy to gravitate towards you. Now putting yourself on the market doesn't mean 'advertising yourself', and what I mean is making yourself appear to be desperate and playing that "pick me" role. What is 'pick me' you might ask? Pick me is trying to conform and sell yourself as this generation's image of the perfect girlfriend/boyfriend. For example, I've seen SEVERAL girls on Twitter talk about how much they stay home, cook and clean, and will massage their mans crusty corns until the sun comes up, which pretty much fulfills society's earliest yet current idea of the perfect woman. And I haven't forgotten about men either, they are just as guilty for doing the same thing, although they usually just portray themselves to be the perfect man with popular qualities women look for (i.e loyalty and honesty) and sell false dreams on the internet, straight cappin' (bullshitting) 😂. So with recruitment, you first need to define your standards and expectations; what exactly is it your looking for? What kind of qualities are you looking for in this person (do you meet your own standards and expectations you set for the next person)? Are you recruiting for a 1 on 1, or a whole basketball team to choose a player from? A couple of things I can definitely recommend for in this stage, RECRUIT PEOPLE WHO WANT THE SAME THING YOU'RE LOOKING FOR! I promise you, you cannot make people change their minds on whether or not they want a relationship; and don't wait around for it either, you'll end up getting your feelings hurt. If you want a relationship, find someone who wants one too; if you want to be friends with benefits, find a mutual for that lifestyle. Even if you just want a situationship (experiencing the comforts of a relationship without being in a relationship), let that be known as well, be honest with yourself and with others who also may be recruiting; stop wasting your time and other people's time!!! Another way to do great recruiting, BE YOURSELF! Someone who genuinely is interested in you will like you for who you are in the moment, not who you portray yourself to be or what you could be, be honest and show sincerity. The energy you give into the universe is the energy you'll receive back, this is called the Law of Attraction; speak great things into yourself and into your life and it'll all fall into place....including a relationship. And for the people who are like me lmao, don't tell yourself you're gonna be single forever, everyone has their turn and you'll have yours 👏🏽, good things come to those who wait!

As always, thank you for the love & support, never stop grinding, and never accept anything less than what you deserve!

Love,

Noelle ❤️